Helping propel moms & dads of 3 to 13 year-olds to invest in their power-decade of parenting. Father of 3 teenagers and pastor of 20 years turned digital writer.
Happy Holidays Readerπ
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It's the most wonderful time of the year πΆ π π½ or so the song says.
The anticipation makes the highs feel higher ... but the lows can feel lower. Much much lower.
The holidays are an amplifier.
The "most wonderful time of the year" takes the peaks and valleys and places them front and center.
In the middle of all the activity are family traditions. The long-established or inherited customs given from one generation to the next.
A real tree or is artificial fine?
Family only or be community inclusive?
Gift extravaganza or a few simple presents?
Family vacation or stay planted at home base?
Fancy meal with good china or matching pajamas all day?
No matter how you navigate the holidays, there are always traditions. But maneuvering through them with a family of your own is difficult.
A current favorite family resource of mine at Parent Cue shared the following about traditions...
A good tradition is like a speed bump: It slows you down and reminds you of years gone by. It pauses you and quiets the moment. A tradition doesnβt have to be massive, but it does have to be something you make your own.
No matter what's going on around them, traditions can ground a kid (and you!) in ways other things can't.
The social pressure a kid feels on a daily basis can feel crushing. Traditions with family communicate to your kids that no matter what's going on in their peer groups, they have a place at home.
The power of anticipation knows no age limit - fun is something we can all agree on. Adjust your traditions slightly so they are age appropriate in every phase. Ask your kid or teen what would make your previous traditions more enjoyable for them.
When a kid actively participates in making special memories, their buy-in deepens their connection to a family even more.
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What I thought would make holiday traditions meaningful over the years:
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What actually puts the magic the holiday traditions:
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I'm plagued with high holiday expectations because of how much I want our traditions to work. Last year I finally matured... I think.
On Christmas Eve 2021 after tensions were super high, I scrolled through my calendar to December 23, 2022.
I made an appointment at Noon that day with myself. I wrote...
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"Don't get into family fight again."
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Sometimes you just need to give yourself a good talking to and recenter.
Do you have a favorite family holiday tradition? Searching for the right tree together? Eating a specific meal on Christmas Eve? I'd love to hear yours because great family moments are my secret addiction.
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By Finley Robinson
Helping propel moms & dads of 3 to 13 year-olds to invest in their power-decade of parenting. Father of 3 teenagers and pastor of 20 years turned digital writer.
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