Helping propel moms & dads of 3 to 13 year-olds to invest in their power-decade of parenting. Father of 3 teenagers and pastor of 20 years turned digital writer.
500 Fridays: My Favorite Parenting Framework Part 2
Win - Coach - Release 🎯Bill Moore. These are the names of 3 of the best coaches I ever had during my junior high and high school days. I played a variety of sports for 15 years and had a lot of coaches, but these men stand head and shoulders above the rest. When I think about all three of those men, they each shared several things in common.
In our sports media culture, we highlight and elevate athletic coaches into their own special category. Usually, this is because of one singular data point... their teams win. But not every coach is measured by their win-loss record. Some coaches help with weight loss. Other coaches help students get into specific schools or programs. Some coaches help with writing, speaking, or leadership. What is true about all coaches though is that they experience their success through the success of others. It is a partnership, one born out of proximity and purpose. The two entities come together for a period of time and an exchange takes place. The coach provides:
The participant brings:
It is the coach's job to get the most out of the talent of whomever they are coaching. It is the participant's job to maximize the knowledge and plan of their coach. You Are The Coach at Home 👏🏼This exact same partnership takes place with parents and kids during their middle years, your power-decade of parenting years. The problem is most of the time your kids don't want to be coached, not directly anyway. Certainly not as often as you feel like you need to. But there are so many areas of life that kids need coaching in, especially if they're going to be released from your home one day. Here's a quick list of 10 and it doesn't even come close to summing it up. Grit Coaching also looks like helping them discover their gifts, their passions, and helping them to identify their place in the world. Your proximity as their parent means that your voice will carry on long past the time they've been released from your home. Both you and your kids can grow weary of the coaching role you play in their life, but don't give up. They have deep identity questions that need to be answered. In the heart of each of your children, they are asking ... ​Sons: "Do I have what it takes?" ​Daughters:"What makes me unique and valuable?" How do you help them find these answers? Do what all great coaches do... Care enough to encourage and correct. Embrace your identity as a coach in their life. Use your knowledge and experience to help them flourish. Win, Coach, & Release their heart to the mission of your family. See you next Friday, |
Power-Decade Parenting
Helping propel moms & dads of 3 to 13 year-olds to invest in their power-decade of parenting. Father of 3 teenagers and pastor of 20 years turned digital writer.
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