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Most of your family meltdowns will be painful or embarrassing at the time, but you'll likely laugh about them someday when your kids are older.
â Spend time with your kids this weekendMay is a very full month in our home. 3 Birthdays, Mother's Day, and a Wedding Anniversary... not to mention all the sports, graduations, and parties that pile in as well. So before the month shifts into 6th gear (yeah, I still drive a manual transmission car ;) I wanted to send you a slingshot for the weekend. Previously, I've written about 2 simple things you can do over your 20+ years as a parent that are foolproof ways to stay close to your kids. Keep your hands on your sons. Boys need physical affection ... even if they don't know it. Maybe this can be a push start for you to connect with one (or all of your kids) in the next few days before May takes over. Here are 17 ways you can have a hands-and-hearts weekend.1. ð Pile together and read a book. Whether it's Dr. Seuss or JK Rowling, sit close and read some pages out loud. 2. ðĪðž Hold hands when you walk. A one-minute walk from the car to the store is a simple way to connect. 3. ð§ļ Sit and play with their favorite toys for half an hour. Give them your undivided attention so you can laugh and play together. 4. ðĪ Tell an "I remember when I was your age" story. Sharing a challenge you faced or a funny memory reminds them you were a kid once too. 5. ðĪŠ Wild jumping on the trampoline. Help them burn off that endless kid energy with some crazy bouncing and wrestling. 6. ðĪ Sing songs full-out together in the car or living room. Grab that Disney playlist and Let It Go. 7. ðŪ Ask them to help you fix part of a meal. The kitchen has always been a central part of family life and kids love to help mom and dad. 8. ðąââïļ Take an extra long time to brush their hair. You do know that most girls love to talk when their hair is being combed right? 9.ðĶGet dessert together, but make it one-on-one. It's amazing what 45 minutes and some sugar can do for a relationship. 10. âūïļ Take them to a movie, sporting event, zoo, or show. Still a classic because kids love every minute of it. 11. ððž Push them on the swings. Maybe not your 12-year-old but swings are as good a hands-and-heart activity as there is. 12. ðĻ Include them in a home-repair project. Give them a small role or have them help measure twice before you cut once. 13. ð Drive thru and get food then eat in the park. There is a reason we still feel nostalgia as adults about family time in the park. 14. â―ïļ Help get some reps and practice their current sport. Don't overdo the coaching but enjoy watching them throw or kick the ball. 15. ðŪ Sit down and play their favorite video game for 45min. It's 100% ok to be bad at a game when your kid gets to show you up and talk trash. 16. ð Grab the coloring book you gave them for Christmas. You have a drawer full of potential art projects waiting to be used. 17. âïļ Ask for the high-low of the week during dinner on the weekend. Everyone gets to share the best and worst parts of their week. Weekend hands-and-heart time helps you avoid the "I haven't done enough for my kids" feeling. It's an intentional way to build that sweet connection with your 3-13 year old. See you next Friday.
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Helping propel moms & dads of 3 to 13 year-olds to invest in their power-decade of parenting. Father of 3 teenagers and pastor of 20 years turned digital writer.
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